Want to know how I got to sit back and relax in the sun with a bottle in my hand? I let my boys make a giant mess. I used to cringe and stress out about little messes. For example, if I spilled a few beans on the floor I’d get so pissed at myself because I really didn’t want to clean them up and I didn’t want the mess. Kids are amazing at making us get over stupid little things like messes. I’ve learned a lot in the past few years of parentings. One of the biggest is to let the messes happen because really cleaning up isn’t that hard and while they are making a mess I get to relax while they learn and have fun.
This past weekend we had a beautiful spring day so I let my oldest fill his play table with sand and water.The messes my two boy made with wet, muddy sand were amazing. The oldest threw it everywhere and the youngest got it all over himself and everything he touched (including inside and outside his mouth). In the beginning my anxiety started to bubble up, but before I could tell them to stop I took a deep breath, sat down, and made myself enjoy watching them. Within a few minutes I had my feet kicked back with my baby’s bottle in my hand. I only intervened to keep the baby from eating sand. Otherwise, they were having such great and safe fun that I didn’t have to worry about anything. The best part was watching their pure joy.